Over the course of the last year and a half, I have published 80 (or so) different posts for each day I have practiced meditation, during each of Oprah and Deepak’s 21-day meditation challenges. My goal has always been to use my experiences and lessons learned as a way to help people who may feel lost on how to become a calmer, healthier person. Not once did I think that sharing what I’ve learned and put into practice would ever come across as preachy, judgmental, and/or righteous, until very recently.
You see, over the last few months, my social media feeds have been increasingly filled with negativity from others in the form of, personal opinions, “you should’s”, “why would anyone…”, “if you do this, then you’re this type of person”, and a lot of other judgmental statements that make me realize everyone is continually forcing their opinions and beliefs on others (inadvertently glamorizing negativity), while simultaneously trying to make sense of what’s occurring around them. It’s causing huge amounts of stress, anxiety, confusion, and other negative emotions, all over the world, that leave most of us overwhelmed and unsure of who we can trust and what opinion we’re supposed to have. We find ourselves searching for legit answers but instead, find more and more opinions, which we then try to identify with on an emotional level, or we “think” will fit with what we are looking for (that sates our deeply rooted emotional needs). It’s this search that is born out of fear of the unknowing, being judged, and a need to belong.
While we can all agree that we are in times of great duress, it is us humans that have put us there – each and every one of us is responsible for our own reaction to another. We are EACH responsible for each other’s care. We are also EACH responsible for being at peace with ourselves, which has a viral effect of sorts on others. It was through my posts I hoped to achieve that level of peace with one or two of my readers, knowing that positivity is just as infectious.
Meditation and its practices are very powerful and positive however, what I’ve learned through the last few months, especially very recently, is that while experiences shape who WE are as individuals, and while it’s comforting to know we aren’t alone in situations; the last thing anyone needs is more information and opinions pushed on them, especially if you are not in a place to receive them. I could FEEL my posts not coming from the best of places and I could SEE that they were coming across as self-righteous. While I’ve had no outside confirmation of this, I don’t need it. I believe that if you see something that doesn’t quite fit, you should act to rectify it. Thus, I’m taking a step back from these posts to make my meditative practices more self-focused. It doesn’t mean the blog is going away, it means that any content I post will come from a more personal place and less of another’s opinion.
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