Since I knew this new 21-day Meditation Challenge was coming up, I decided to focus on other projects until it was time to begin! As always, I will be posting my thoughts (journaling) on my meditation journey, as I know it’s helped a few of you in the past!
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Today’s meditation is focused around beliefs enhancing your life. I will be the first to admit that when I used to hear the word “beliefs”, I’d think religion. In this meditation, it teaches you that beliefs make up how you think, who you are, and how you feel. It’s the core of what makes up YOU – religion can be just one component of that.
When I think of the word “beliefs”, I also think of the movie “The Invention of Lying“. Ricky Gervais’ character realized that he could tell anyone anything, even if it wasn’t true, and people would believe him. In the movie, his entire world around him didn’t really have beliefs of their own, so much as following what became societal processes they were to follow. In other words, they all seemed to be on auto pilot about their lives, and no one was truly unique. In the end, Jennifer Garner’s character realized that she could feel things for herself and despite knowing Ricky’s character wasn’t the most handsome man, and their kids wouldn’t be the most attractive, she knew she was in love with him and didn’t want anyone else.
It’s actually funny that this was the first meditation in the series, to engage in because over the weekend, I spent some time thinking about what makes up ME. And, also questioning if I care what other people think about my likes/dislikes, and what I value in my life. For the longest time, I cared so much about what other people thought of my actions, who I associated with, where I spent my time, and who I was to “be” in their eyes. Dating and socializing were strategic games of appearances; how I presented myself physically became a daunting series of tasks that left me stressed; and I found myself desperately trying to align myself with people that only make up one component of who I truly am. Then, I moved to San Diego and I learned that self-care was the number one priority. I needed to make some incredible life shifts that would reshape me into ME. I spent from May of 2014 to May of 2015 figuring that out. And, what emerged was a happier, healthier me. When I moved back to D.C. earlier this year, this new, more confident person came back and the results have been tremendous.
So what does make up ME? While the list can go on (longer than a CVS receipt), here are my top 10 that make me smile everyday:
- I believe in love. Love isn’t just about another human being. It could be loving a pet, loving a particular memory, and/or it could be a happy place. The point being – whatever it is that makes your heart smile every single day, is what you should be embracing (loving).
- I believe in astrology. No, I don’t believe people can necessarily predict the future but I do believe horoscopes give you daily guidance, and the science behind astrology is fascinating. It’s all about energy shifts, whether you believe in it or not.
- I believe the universe has your back. When I was two weeks away from my move, from San Diego, my gut was so confused on whether I should move to Los Angeles, or move home to Washington, D.C. I literally could not think this out for myself, and my friends weren’t telling me things to sway my decision. I finally told myself the universe will give me the sign. Sure enough, the next day, it did! While I love L.A., being home has been amazing.
- On a more fun note, I believe in EDM music. In fact, it’s addicting to go to shows. I grew up dancing. On dance team, even through college, house music was the preferred choice to dance to. As a dancer, you FEEL the music. It’s not always about the words, so much as it’s about the beat for me. I am that girl that loves the bass, loves the energy, and would prefer this as my natural energy “drug”, over anything else.
- I believe in writing. Although incredibly obvious, it’s shaping my passions and some of my life goals. I’m opening myself up to the possibility of freelancing again (website under construction), and I am in the midst of writing my novel (a life goal).
- I believe intimate gatherings. Whether I’m the one throwing the dinner party, or I’m attending someone else’s party, I love the thrill of meeting new people, and connecting with those I’ve not seen in a while. It makes my heart full.
- I believe in exploring. Being “bit by the travel bug” is a real thing. There’s such a huge world out there and experiencing different cultures, seeing history come alive, and even sampling some of the world’s best food and wine, are all part of that exploration – it’s addicting (and also very freeing)!
- I believe in fashion. Fashion is a form of artistic expression. Playing “dress up” with myself is part of that. Whether it’s an amazing handbag, crazy shoes, a new makeup palette, a costume for a party, or just dressing up for a night out, it’s a direct reflection of how I’m FEELING (notice I didn’t say who I am – moods can shift with the wind, and being a dynamic individual, one outfit doesn’t constitute one’s outlook on life).
- I believe in luxury. No, it’s not just related to a high-end lifestyle (which is also something I like), it’s also related to smaller luxuries we never afford ourselves, such as taking a nap (getting more sleep), taking a long bath, reading a book, going for a drive somewhere new, etc. We all need to pamper ourselves from time to time.
- I believe in “owning” who you are. This is one of the most difficult things to believe in. Confidence is an energy, and people sense it. When you know who you are, what you believe in, what you care about, and realize you have you (and only you) for the rest of your life to live with, confidence shines through (it’s very freeing to “own” who you are). People then want to be near you, they want to be a part of your life story, and thus, you see life in a different light – a happier, healthier, beautiful light.
So, I challenge each of you to come up with your top 10 beliefs. Pick two or three you’re afraid people are going to judge you on and let them out. If they matter to you, they definitely matter to someone else in this world. It’s a very freeing exercise!