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21 Day Meditation with Deepak Chopra (Day 20): Being proud of your uniqueness

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In Day 20 of the Meditation Experience, the Centering Thought is focused on valuing your uniqueness and rejoicing in it.

Imagine living in a world where everyone was the same – everyone had the same thoughts, agreed on the same conclusions, dressed in the same style, and had the same taste in pretty much anything aesthetically pleasing.  When I think of this, I think of everyone wearing white, living in all white abodes, nodding at each other.  Now imagine one person, standing in the middle of this, wearing a bright color, such as red.  They are dancing by themselves, completely bucking all conformity, knowing that one day, someone else will break from the norm and follow suit.

Let’s apply this concept to the real world.  Think about inventions you were reluctant to buy or use because you were “unsure” they would have staying power, that perhaps they were just a fad.  Think of CEOs you have heard of, that people mocked because their idea would never take off.  Think about your own experiences where it seems all forces were against you but you pushed forward on your own agenda anyway.  Uniqueness is what makes civilization evolve and those that push evolution – either in thinking or creating – are the catalysts to this.  They are proud they are different and they don’t care what other people think – they are passionate about what they do and they know that the world will embrace it soon enough.

We oftentimes limit ourselves in thinking outside of the box because there are many people in this world who do not embrace change and it’s often voiced loud and clear.  While this might very well be too much of a generalization, think about someone who told you, you couldn’t do something or that the idea you had was a bad idea.  Yet, you knew it would probably do more good than harm if it was implemented.  Did you really think there was potential for it truly being a bad idea or did you get the sense that the other person might have found it to be too much of a change for them, causing slight chaos in their own world or, maybe it was just more work they didn’t want to do?  It’s at this point that the majority of people would dismiss their idea and agree with the “negative” party and instead, would go about their day, doing what is expected of them.  It’s then that they have accepted that being unique is a hindrance to life and thus, they stop evolving.  The trick to getting past it?  Confidence and passion.

I’ve found that the older I’ve gotten, the more CONFIDENT I am in my abilities and intelligence.  It also helps that I work in an industry where they EXPECT creativity and unique skill sets and for me, that drives my PASSION for what I do.  But in order for me to get there, it was a process.  It was a process of both self-discovery and team work.

I worked for Microsoft for a long time as a Marketing Manager.  It wasn’t the type of environment (at least in the department I was in) that encouraged creativity.  Even when I left and started my own company, I still limited myself to what I offered as services, based on my experience in the corporate world. It wasn’t until I became the Director of Marketing for a luxury mall that I realized I never had a chance to even attempt to tap into my unique and creative potential.  In this job, it was expected.  The more I was encouraged to do this, the more it infiltrated every part of my life.  I found my own “eye” for creativity in everything I did and certainly, my own sense of style became a trademark.  The more this was encouraged, the more confident I became.  It opened the door for opportunities both in the fashion and technology worlds, often bridging the two.  The more this evolved, the more I started coming up with new concepts and working on new projects with people who had similar experiences in the corporate world (before they’d spin off on their own or onto more creative ventures).  They were unique souls who believed in disrupting antiquated processes and often banded together to make it happen.  The more I met these like-minded individuals, the more inspiration I acquired to push myself even further, and the more I realized that uniqueness was highly embraced in today’s work world.

Today, I am incredibly proud of the unique person I’ve become. It’s because of my confidence that my creativity is at an all-time high and when surrounded by the right people, has made a huge difference in my success.  I’m proud of the fact that I stand out in all aspects of my life and no longer feel like I need to conform to what “should” be in this world.  I know that I am making a unique difference and that is one of the best feelings in the world.