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In Day 14 of the Meditation Experience, the Centering Thought is focused on trusting that our lives fit into a larger plan.
Think about a difficult decision you had to make. You’re stuck at a crossroad, searching an answer that you don’t have. Your gut isn’t giving you a clear direction, no one else has been able to provide you a clear direction (or an indication of one), and it feels as though you’re gonna be stuck there forever. You want to control how it comes to you. The logical part of your brain wants to solve it. But your soul knows that if you let it go, it will come back to you.
I’ve been there too many times in the last month. Once my ex and I agreed to part ways, everything changed. Everything in my life got thrown up in the air – I could do/be/go anywhere I wanted. The universe opened me up to infinite possibilities. I could feel that there was a larger plan brewing for myself and although exciting, made me feel extremely overwhelmed with not knowing how to prepare.
Imagine you’ve unraveled a large ball of yarn into a perfect line and a cat comes in and creates it into a mess of knots and tangles. You just stare at it, trying to figure out where to start unraveling again. You want to start at one end, and you do, but you second guess if that end is going to take longer to unravel than working on the other end. This is how my decision to move, where to move to, and how I wanted my “new” life to be, went. I tried for weeks to come to decisions on things that are usually easy for me to solve. When a friend told me to just throw it back out into the universe and let it decide (although painful), within 24 hours, I had my answer (to my move and location on “home” at least). Letting go of what was bothering me brought things back into focus, giving me a level of confidence in a decision I was extremely uneasy about. It comes down to trust that there is a larger plan for you with a “higher being” out there that knows what to do. Trust is not an easy thing to give, particularly if you have been hurt or let down a lot.
Deepak Chopra says that, “…setbacks and disappointments are meant to fit into your evolution.” He lists out four types of setbacks that we face and what they are:
- Temporary – They straighten themselves out with minimal effort
- Points you in a different direction – They force you to question what you’re doing
- Hidden emotions and beliefs – They expect you to bring them out into the open and work on them
- Getting ready to present a new opportunity – It’s time to shed something in the “old you” to make room for the next best thing in your life
When faced with a tough decision, recognizing which of the four it might be is the first step. The second step is the practice of patience and trust. These two things are the keys to everything in life. Having those for others can be difficult from time to time but having those for yourself, especially when faced with a tough decision, can be (sometimes) downright impossible. Learning that tough decisions (obstacles) are a part of life and are meant to strengthen us in some way, helps us to remove some of the negative feelings we feel when we are faced with these tough decisions. It teaches us patience that the universe will reveal itself in time and trust that we believe (within ourselves) that this is true.
When I concluded this meditation, I felt a little drained and definitely a bit emotional. It affirmed everything I’ve put into practice about letting go, having patience and trusting in myself. It affirmed that I am on the right course (for myself) to being successful and because of that, I am grateful.