Note: If you missed the first week of my meditation experience, scroll through the home page to review.
In Day 7 of the Meditation Experience, the Centering Thought is focused on our being. “Being is the silent, unshakeable foundation of our life. It gives purpose, strength, balance, and direction to our life, just by virtue of existence.” — Deepak Chopra
This meditation rounded out week one by helping us to see how each internal “moving part” of our being comes together, as a whole, to help obtain success from within. When we are able to get in touch with our inner being, no longer are we distracted from life, its toxins, and other distractions around us. Instead, we are at peace with being alone, forging our own paths and taking time out to just “be”.
I come from a fast-paced city where irrational decisions are constantly made, people are always “on”, and oftentimes, these same people are afraid to be alone for fear that they are missing out on something or even worse, would be alone with their own thoughts. I used to be one of those people until about 3 years ago when I realized being alone (including living alone) would be the best thing for me to come into my own being, learn to live with myself, and realize that I have me, and only me, to live with the rest of my life.
Like many people in my city, I hopped from relationship to relationship, hoping to define myself, in terms of who I’d choose as an idealistic mate. It was always “the idea of” and not the one that actually made sense. When my last dating relationship ended a few years ago, I decided it was time to live alone and figure out “life” by myself. While it was scary at first to constantly be alone with my own thoughts, it helped me achieve a couple of things:
- A deeper appreciation for supporting myself financially – many women look to men to help carry out that task. When you realize you’re responsible for yourself, you start taking work more seriously and you start planning for your future more seriously.
- Understanding what I REALLY want out of life and making it happen. With no live-in distractions, it became much easier for me to focus on my longer-term goals.
- Realizing that being out ALL THE TIME was causing (albeit fun) distractions but not really giving me a chance to heal and learn to be me.
- Coming to terms that what I thought I knew about life, I didn’t, and that it was time for me to throw away any “lists” and be open to any life experience that would come my way.
What became amazing through these achievements is that the processes I inherently went through, stuck. I ended up making better choices whether I knew I was doing it or not. When it became second nature, I no longer worried about external distractions, I learned to appreciate the world around me, and became at peace with who I was and who I would be. This was only furthered by my meditation practice and using journaling as a way to mentally cleanse away my day everyday. When this happens, you do start to see every new day as a fun surprise or gift to yourself because it’s another day to achieve the greatness you want.